6 Phrases You'll Hear in the Most Successful Relationships

Even people in healthy relationships fight sometimes. But it's HOW you fight that makes a difference.

A pair of psychologists who've been married 35 years came up with a list of the phrases people in good relationships tend to use a lot. They grouped them into six different categories . . .


1.  "I feel" statements. You don't have to start with those exact words. It's just about expressing emotions. 

Things like:

  • "I'm getting scared"
  • "That hurt my feelings"
  • "I feel like you don't understand me right now."


2.  "I need to calm down." It's about taking a breath. Other examples include:

  • "This is important to me, please listen"
  • "Can I have a hug?"


3.  Stop actions. It's similar to the last one. Phrases like:

  • "Let's start again"
  • "Can we take a break and talk about something else?"
  • "I might be wrong."


4.  Getting to "yes." Phrases that validate the other person and help you meet halfway. Things like:

  • "I agree with part of what you're saying"
  • "I see where you're coming from"
  • "I think your point of view makes sense."


5.  Expressing your appreciation. Lines like:

  • "I understand"
  • "Thank you for saying that"
  • "I love you."


6.  "I'm sorry." Or even just admitting you're not perfect. Phrases like:

  • "I was being extreme"
  • "I can see my part in all this"
  • "Sorry, let me try again."



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